Happy 2017… and no, 2016 was not the #worstyearever

Well yes many people who we don’t know but feel like we do passed away, there were riots and shootings, the president-elect wasn’t exactly everyone’s choice and there were many terrorist  attacks. Too many that I’ve lost count. Even so; it’s not the worst year ever. In fact, we have it pretty good compared to people and what they went through not too long ago. We at least have the luxury of sitting in our beds watching A New Hope in our Care-Bear onesie typing on our iPads, eating chocolate chip cookies and, well, you get the point.

I want to point out some positive things that happened this year all around the world! There are good things happening every single day. We need to focus more on the positive. I know it’s tough because most of the news we are given is negative and biased, but there are good things happening and good people out there. Whining doesn’t help and we can’t have everything we want in life. It’s not always going to go your way. Just remember, we only live once, so let’s make the best of this.  Here are some positives things I found.

🔹Region of the Americas is Measles  free! What? Are measles something we were worried about? Well, a little. There were a few cases in 2015 but thanks to vaccines, we are all clear! It took 22 years of hard work to achieve that goal.

🔹Remember the ice bucket challenge? Well a few years back everyone was getting splashed with buckets of water to raise money for ALS. Good news. That’s money helped! They haven’t found a cure yet but have made a major discovery leading them in that direction.

🔹Since 2000; the ozone layer has shown signs of heeling and has closed a bit. This proves that banning the use of the chemicals in aerosol cans etc, has helped.

🔹For those who care about the Dakota Access pipeline; a victory was won and the construction the pipeline was stopped due to the efforts of many who stood up for what matters to them.

🔹 A peace treaty was made in Columbia.

🔹The panda is no longer on the extinct list!

🔹The numbers of tigers are on the rise.

🔹A vaccine for Ebola was developed.

🔹Sea world will stop breeding captive killer whales.

🔹Nasa’s Juno spacecraft reached Jupiter.

🔹California is powering over 6 million homes with solar power.

🔹 Bank firm will pay for college tuition for children of the employee victims of 911.

🔹ROUGE ONE was released.

Those are some positive things right? i know there are many more and I do see stories on social media that are positive. Sometimes. People still have to make their negative comments though. Let’s try to be more positive this year and nicer to people. People act like they care so much about people around the world etc but can care less about their neighbor. They probably don’t even know their name. Let’s try to change that. We need to stick together.


More bounce to the…

What’s the first thing you do when you get home ladies? Take off your bra right? I noticed over the past few years how painful wearing a bra really has become; mainly in the rib cage area. I read that I probably have rib cage flares, which many women have. Ok fine but it hasn’t always been this way. It’s becoming more painful as I age. So that got me thinking. why do we need to wear bras? Do we really need to? Why do I have to be in pain?

I remember in the summer before 7th grade, my stepmother dragged me over to the hallway mirror in the entry way of my dad’s house, stood behind me, grabbed me by my shoulders and said “see those, do you see those little things?!” You need to start wearing a bra.  As I looked at myself in the mirror, wearing my pink top with a little apple decal; my face began to look like the apple on my top because I was so embarrassed. I was already a shy kid so this was a bit much for me.  Going to the store to pick out the new bra was even worse. Trying to put it on alone in the bathroom was even worse than that. I remember being so pissed off and frustrated; even at a young age. Why do I have to go through this I asked? Because you need to “train” your breast. Train them for what? Are they going to be in the Olympics in a breast bouncing competition? At that age I didn’t even have anything to hold up. So the question is; why start wearing a bra as a child? What could that possibly do for you? Obviously one reason is so little boys won’t make fun of you but I’m talking about medically. Does a bra do your body good?

I understand that because we as a society, have been wearing them for so long now, that we believe we HAVE to. Where did that information come from? My doctor has never said anything about the health benefits or wearing a bra. In fact, it’s never been discussed. Well since national no bra day is coming up on October 13th , I thought I would talk about this and see what people had to say. I wish it was no bra every day.

Of course I’m not an expert on anything but I read many studies that have been done about how NOT wearing a bra can be beneficial and it seems to make a lot of sense to me. The main finding which I’m sure everyone would agree with is wearing a bra does absolutely nothing for “sagging breasts.” The very reason we are told to wear them in the first place. Remember? For “training.” If that were true, most older women would have firm, non sagging breasts right? Then you wouldn’t have to wear a bra when you got older. If the whole point of starting to wear then at a young age to train them for not sagging but it’s not true, why we do we torture ourselves! Research actually shows the opposite effect. Not wearing a bra can increase more muscle tone and supporting breast tissue.  Wearing a bra most of your life can actually make them sag more. Think about it. It makes sense. You would build muscle since your breasts will be able to move.

For me personally, finding a bra that fits me correctly and is comfortable at the same time, is very rare if not impossible. I’ve tried. I would love if we didn’t have to wear them at all and be free! Yeah yeah I know…what about the nipple?! I wish it wasn’t such a big deal either since every human has them. I mean I don’t think we as women need to walk around topless or anything but on the other hand what’s wrong with a little nip? Can people not control themselves? They didn’t wear bra’s on Three’s company! Why are we going backwards? There is a good comprise though if you’re not comfortable going bra-less just yet and it’s called the bra-lette. It’s a good in-between bra. No they won’t push your boobs high up into round ball shapes but they’ll give a little lift and a little coverage for your nips so you don’t feel too naked and you won’t have to the of under-wires and feel so restricted. Technically, yes I know you breast look “better” in a certain shape but I feel that’s just because that’s what we are used to seeing. Or try a camisole or nipple covers if that’s what concerns you.

I’m not going to say everyone should stop wearing a bra. Do what’s right for you. Maybe you could try not to wear one as much as possible and see how you feel. It may feel weird at first but the more you don’t wear one; the better it will feel once you get used to it. Oh and if you feel like being even more adventures, visit one of these cities in the US and feel free to walk around topless! That’s right there are 12 cities where being completely topless is legal and you can literally walk around with no top. Just saying. These free boobing cities are Asheville, NC, Austin, TX, Boulder, CO, Columbus, OH, Eugene, OR, Honolulu, HI, Kenne, NH, Madison, WI, New York, NY, Portland, OR, Santa Fe, NM, and Washington, DC. I have read 33 states actually allow this but in reality they really don’t you will still get hassled. Anyway, just thought I would put that out there.




Summer of Love

IMG_5025 I had no idea I was going to come back from Kauai an engaged women, but here I am here writing about it now. Who knew if it would ever happen I am almost 40 after all! 🙂 I couldn’t be happier and I’m so lucky to have found someone who truly accepts and loves me for me. My craziness and all.  At the half mile mark of the Kalalau trail, Monday June 22nd, the second day of our trip; I said yes to a proposal on bended knee from the love of my life, my best friend Blake.

We were in Hawaii for a family trip to celebrate the graduation of Blake’s niece’s from high school. I have been to Maui once before but this was my first time in Kauai. I wasn’t sure what to expect as several people told me it was pretty laid back with not much to do. I think that’s exactly what I needed because I had a great time! Our first day was pretty chill. We met up with friends at Puka Dog my new favorite, then hung out at the beach for a bit. IMG_4814

Okay so let’s get back to Puka Dog. I’m not really into hotdogs much so I wasn’t sure if I was going to like it. Well, I loved it! The way they cook the “dog” along with the garlic and my choice of relish which I chose coconut ; was amazing. We ate it twice it was so good. As I’m writing this I’m bummed that I can’t have one right now. Please bring this to California asap!

We had an awesome condo in Poipou which was our home for the week. I was afraid of spending way too much money in Hawaii so having a fully stocked kitchen was one of the great amenities they offered. Of course we went for some lunches and dinners out, but it was nice to have groceries at least for breakfast and snacks. Most of our evenings were pretty mellow as everything shut down pretty much around nine. We either played dominos with the family or spent time relaxing and watching movies. Honestly you get so tired from spending a lot of your day doing something in the sun, all you want to do at night is relax.

There were some activities we planned ahead of time but mostly we just wanted to do whatever we felt like doing and not plan too much out.  We were going to a theatrical luau one night and tubing the next day. I was really looking forward to both. The luau was at a Plantation near Poipou and about 1000 people were there. It was such a nice evening and perfect weather with just a little bit of drizzle, but we were under a huge tent anyway. The food was served buffet style along with the pig and all which I did not look at as they brought it outside for everyone to see. Yuck! They had a few jewelry and handbag vendors outside before dinner was served and I found the cutest couple of bags. Score! Oh and every single person at our table was from southern California. All and all it was a great time.










The tubing adventure through the old sugar canals was a pretty rad time except for the van ride up there. Due to lack of roads, let’s just say it wasn’t a good time for me. I did recover though and ended up having a lot of fun.IMG_5027Many days were spent lying around on the beach, snorkeling, hiking up the Napali coast and taking a few drives and taking in the beautiful scenery. We learned our way around as the island as it’s pretty small anyway, and had our little local market we would visit frequently. I think we got pretty comfortable with our surroundings, rooster and all and it wasn’t easy to leave.  I would definitely visit Kauai again I think it has a lot to offer. It will forever hold a special place in my heart for many reasons and I’m so beyond grateful to my new family that I was included in this family trip and was and always am treated like I’m one of them.



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Happy new year! Am I too late?


Yeah yeah a little late I suppose but hey; it’s only the beginning of February so not too bad. I don’t make “resolutions” really because I think you’re setting yourself up for failure; but I do want to make some changes this year to better myself. In reality; I think of these things every day but feel like I just don’t have enough time. Or I forget. Either way. I always say I’m going to write more often but yet my last post was long ago. Like my boyfriend says; everyone procrastinate’s in their own way. This blog is something I love to do and something I just need to make the time for. Even if two people read this I’m happy. So whatever you have a passion for…DO IT.

I know my life isn’t over at 40 or anything, but since this is my last year in my 30’s; I want to really make it count and just not let time pass me by. Sometimes I feel like I don’t do much except for work and watch tv, but when I look at all my photos I realize I do have a life! Haha. For this year though I want it to be healthier, happier and explore new and exciting places and do or see things I haven’t seen before. It doesn’t even have to be traveling for example. Though traveling around would be awesome, it’s not reality as I have bills. I work every other weekend and oh I don’t make enough money. Sound familiar? There are so many things my city and state have to offer that I want to begin to take advantage of. I have lived here most of my life and there are so many places I haven’t been to and so many things I have yet to see. The timeless phrase “stop and smell the roses” is what comes to mind. It’s so true. Sometimes we just need to take a breather and realize how privileged we are and to really enjoy this one crazy life we have and make the most of it. Life doesn’t always turn out like you thought it would and maybe you didn’t follow your dreams but it’s never too late. You never know how long you will be on this earth. The sixteenth anniversary of my mom’s passing was on January 30th. She passed away when she was 50 years old. I miss her so much every single day. She was young and full of life. Always happy. She was someone who always lived her life to the fullest. Everyone loved her. I want to be more like her. She was most amazing woman I have ever known.  She motivates and encourages me. Now and forever.

Starting this month I challenge you to do one thing each month for the rest of the year that you haven’t done before. Maybe a hobby like snowboarding or something new like going to an art show. Or take a little road trip to explore new places. Do something out of your comfort zone. Who knows; you may enjoy it and find a love for something new. I started this last month with a few new things and I’m very excited to make the rest of the year a great one!

January was a super busy month. I wanted to start the year off right. New years day we started off by bowling with friends and that’s where my fun new year began! Among other things; the two new things I did was going to Huntington Library and the Freak show in Venice Beach, CA. Yes I watch the reality show on AMC and I really wanted to go.  So I did. My boyfriend suggested it, actually both things. He makes me happy. Anyway; I knew who everyone was there by first name and about their lives. Ha!  So back to the garden…The Huntington Gardens and Library were beautiful although there’s not many flowers blooming in January so another time of the year may be a better time to go. The admission is pretty, pretty, pretty steep. $23. Ok not a ludicrous amount but still. To look at plants and such just seems a little high. I mean there’s no rides or anything not even a tram j.k, but overall it was a great, nice, mellow relaxing type of experience.  Well except for all the walking. I was pretty sore for the rest of the week. Gosh I’m getting old. Let’s add workouts in for this year reminder to self. Ok back to my weekend. We went to Venice Beach the next day to see the freaks and the freaks, and more freaks. Did I say freaks? It was much smaller inside then it looks on tv and they have much less stuff there to look at than I thought but I still loved it. Hey it’s only $5 bucks so that’s a great deal anyway for a little freak action.  I have been to Venice a couple of times in my life and didn’t care for it really but actually had on great time on this day. Watching the kids skate at the skate park and adults roller dance was an entertaining experience. Especially the roller dance dudes.

I generally go to shows often especially to see Skapeche Mode and Slippers. Yeah my boyfriend is in both of those bands so there’s that. They both played last month, twice for Skapeche Mode, which I got to check out at The Echo in L.A. which I have never been too before. They also played at House Of Blues in Anaheim. Seems like they play there every couple of months or so. It always a great time there. Check them out if you haven’t already. The Slippers played at Alex’s bar. We also checked out the Depeche Mode tribute band Strangelove at Slidebar in Fullerton on an early Sunday night. It was a busy month for music!

It was beautiful sister Tiffany’s birthday as well as many of my friends. Kirsten had a rad Goth birthday party. Seemed like every day one of my friends had a birthday. So happy birthday all you January babies! My cousin Drea got married; I couldn’t make it but Congrats Drea and Joe. Oh and I got a haircut for a fresh start! Happy new year everyone. I hope you’ve had a great year so far and continued happiness for the rest of the year.

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I heard if you…well you heard wrong! -Top 10 beauty myths everyone knows about but still doesn’t seem to believe.

There are so many beauty myth’s that are passed down from generation to generation that we hear, and are not exactly true; but for some reason we keep doing or believing these things. I guess it’s because so many of us hear it time and time again, it would seem that it must be true right? Well wrong! Here are the top ten.

1. Shaving does not make you grow more hair, nor thicker or darker hair.-Okay so think about it. How would that even be possible? You are cutting hair on your skin’s surface, not penetrating your skin and damaging the follicle. The hair appears thicker and darker because you are cutting the hair bluntly. Because it appears thicker and darker, that makes it also seem like there’s more hair growing as well. 

2. You cannot shrink your pores-I know, I know, there’s a ton of ads promoting products that claim to do so. Well it’s not true. There’s no way to change the size of your pores. You can make them appear smaller to the eye for a temporary effect, but that about it. Pores do not actually shrink and products basically just fill them in like putty temporarily. 

3. Dark circles are not caused by lack of sleep-That’s right! You know what you can do to prevent dark circles? NOTHING. It’s genetic. You’re either prone to them or you’re not. It’s that simple. Lack of sleep may cause a little puffiness, but again not the circles.

4. Tweezing a Grey hair does not cause more to grow-It doesn’t I promise! It’s probably not a good idea to do it and it kinda hurts but it will not cause more growth. If you’re still worried then just trim it. 

5. Chocolate and greasy foods to not cause breakouts-Nope, they don’t. You shouldn’t be eating those things anyway right? If you do though; instead of worrying about two things you’ll only have to worry about one. Your health.

6. Split ends cannot be mended with products-Yes ladies it’s just marketing. The only way to mend those ends is to cut them off!

7. Crossing your legs does not cause varicose or spider veins-Another problem that’s mostly hereditary too. Sorry ladies. Being on your feet all day can slightly cause them as well but it’s pretty much your genetics.

8. Stress does not cause Grey hair-What?! Yes it’s true! Like most of our “problems,” Grey hair is cause by genetics and again of course. 

9. You cannot remove your cellulite-That’s what I said. You can use all the lotions and potions and laser treatments you want, but cellulite is here to stay. Fat or skinny most have  women it and like everything else, it’s hereditary .So thank the one’s who you were before you. 

10. DRINKING WATER DOES NOTHING FOR YOUR SKIN-This is the number one beauty myth of all. Even though it’s been said time and time again; people still believe this to be true. It’s not. Hey of course you should drink a lot of water, but getting good skin out of it will not happen. It fact your skin needs oil and that makes it healthy. Using sunscreen won’t hurt either. 

Comment? Questions? I’m a licensed esthetician so just ask!




Weekend of the crop top.

Since Thursday was my day off; I figured I would start the weekend then, even though I did have to work Friday. I made a decision in the beginning of the week that it was going to be a good one and I was going to have a fun time no matter what, and it all started with a crop top. Crop top you ask. I made a conscious decision that I was going to have a good time and I felt like i wanted to wear what i want and not worry about it. Usually I think too much about how i look, if my tummy looks poochie, if I’m thin enough, too old, etc. Then it hit me. Know one cares. I worry too much. After all I visit Disneyland a lot so I see what a lot of the general public wears and it’s not pretty! Speaking of Disneyland; I was waiting for my good friend to pick me up and whisk me off to our Disney adventure! Both of us have season passes so why not. I usually visit the park at least once a week, sometimes twice. Yes I’m getting addicted. Anyway, so our plan was to get on a few rides, see a few things, eat and go to Downtown Disney to watch Maleficent. I have been wanting to see it for a week now. Seemed like I was the only one who hasn’t. So we did just that. The park wasn’t too crowded, especially since a lot of schools are already out. I thought it would be worse.

After a few rides and a quick meal in Downtown Disney, we sat down for Maleficent at the theatre there. I have to say I was little disappointed but it didn’t think it was terrible. Maybe I expected too much because I heard it was so good from many people. I just thought it was a little slow and they could have done a better job with the story line. I did like looking at Angeline Jolie though as I thought she looked amazing as always. Then I headed home to watch the San Antonio Spurs beat the Miami Heat! What a great day.

Friday after work it was right on to Orange is the New Black season 2. So excited. Fast forward to right this moment and I’m currently on episode 6. I would have been further along if it didn’t stop freezing. Netflix does NOT stream well through my blu-ray player ugh. It’s hard to watch anything! Anyway I got lunch at Mother’s Saturday afternoon with my roommate, then met up with friends for some appetizers and cherry coke’s! Followed by more Orange… I love it so far. It definitely doesn’t disappoint. Two more days and I will probably be finished. And then what?

Sunday funday was spent with my friend Kirsten at Oc Weekly Summer Fest at the Newport Dunes in Newport Beach, Ca. Great bands played like Allensworth, The Debonaires, and The Aggrolites. I ran into a great friends from high school that I haven’t seen in 20 years! Overall it was pretty chill there, not too many people, nice day, good music and some food trucks. I just feel like it could have had a little more. I’m not talking about a huge festival and tons of venders or anything like that. I like the small feel but there was about 5 food trucks which is pretty good for the amount of people there and a few little vendors with some swimsuits and clothing but nothing exciting. There could have been more stuff to do. Something to make it a little more fun. Maybe some type of contest or competition and more stuff to at least look at. Overall, it was a great day. Aside from my Spurs losing to the Heat; but enough about that.

Happy monday everyone and I hope you all have a great week!


What’s the Skinny?


You’re so skinny do you eat? Have you lost weight? You’re so thin. These are things that some of my friends and I hear on a pretty consistent basis; and no, we don’t take it as a compliment. Here’s why…

I don’t come up to you and say; you’re so fat. Do you ever stop eating? It’s the same thing. You may not look at it that way but it is. I would never say anything like that to anyone anyway as I’m just trying to make a point. If I’m asked a question by a close friend of course I would be honest but I’m not going to verbally attack you.  First of all I didn’t ask. I’m sure my friends and acquaintances don’t mean any harm, but the tones in people’s voice’s when they say it, sounds like they are in disgust like I’m a super super skinny…

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